In a few of our circles last week we talked about division of labor at home - something that can be challenging without children and is almost immediately amplified with a new baby because there is SO much more to do.
The pandemic has brought a whole new level of challenge to many of our partnerships. Literally hundreds of news articles (which are no surprise to us) describe how women and mothers are bearing the largest burden of childcare and housework, PLUS the mental load that comes along with it. As a result, we're feeling completely burnt out, resentful, and often at a loss for how to redistribute the mental and physical load of raising kids.
So this week we're experimenting with the who does what list. It was originally developed by the Gottman Institute, but I like the way Better Life Lab breaks it down in an easy to follow "experiment."
Basically, you make a list - or use one like this -
to see who is doing what to make your lives run. From there, you can start a discussion on how things might be rearranged or outsourced to make it run better.
Have you tried creating a who does what list? How did it go?
We've also shared some ideas in the past to foster partner connection - the love-in, figuring out your love languages, plus some covid-19 specific ideas.
To the moms doing this alone - we see you, want to know how you are managing - if you are managing and what you have been able to let go of or outsource.
We're all in this together and we'd love to hear how you feel about the division of responsibilities in your home.
Thoughts on pregnancy, birth and motherhood.