The holidays can be a mix of everything - deep gratitude, devastating grief, overwhelming joy, immense frustration, and so much more.

There are multiple layers in the national tradition of Thanksgiving - is it about gratitude? Or mourning? And on the individual level of our families there can be so many different dynamics as well. 
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I have found a few wonderful posts on instagram recently that I wanted to share with you as we enter into the holiday season - because they all say it better than I do :) 

The topic of the mental load comes up in every single circle and most conversations I have with parents of young children. If you are new to the idea of the mental load this cartoon is a great place to start: 

https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked

Here are a couple of articles with suggestions on how to discuss or redistribute the mental load: 

https://parenting.nytimes.com/work-money/mental-load

https://www.sacmag.com/health/the-mental-load/

There has been less research on same-sex couples but here are a few perspectives: 
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https://www.nytimes.com/2018/05/16/upshot/same-sex-couples-divide-chores-much-more-evenly-until-they-become-parents.html
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https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12779502/emotional-labor-lgbtq-relationships/

Do you relate to any of these articles? Or have other advice to offer on the mental load?