I thought I was the only one...

Modern day motherhood is isolating. Add on 2+ years of a pandemic and many of us can count on one hand the meaningful social interactions we've had with other parents. Sure, there are knowing glances at the playground. The desire to run across the street and strike up casual conversation when you see someone else out on a walk with a stroller.  

We are social beings. We were meant to raise our children in community - for more hands to hold babies, stir soup, and fold laundry. And, more than that, for the shared experience. For knowing we are not alone in what we are going through.

In all of our circles the most incredible moments are not when we trade swaddle tricks, or the best shows to binge watch, or strategies for dealing with in-laws (which are all very helpful!).

They are the moments when someone is brave and vulnerable and shares a story, or a feeling, or an experience they think nobody else can understand - and then look around the room and see nodding, acceptance, and often tears. This is true connection.

Sometimes the loneliest part of motherhood is not actually being in our houses by ourselves with our children, but truly feeling that we are the only one going through what we're going through.
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So we wanted to share just a sampling of these burdens that felt unique and were met with deep understanding in recent weeks: 

• I can't imagine how sex will never be enjoyable again after going through multiple rounds of fertility treatments and losses.
• I love both of my kids but I feel a much deeper connection to one of them and can't help but want to spend more time with her.
• I had a traumatic birth and thought I was going to die.
• I thought my partner and I had similar values but all of a sudden we have completely different priorities.
• I desperately want to go back to work and have someone else take care of my babies. 
• I feel awful about gaining weight in pregnancy and it's triggering my previous disordered eating. 
• I am breastfeeding my toddler and it works for us but I feel judged by friends and family.

This is why we gather. To remember that we are not alone, that there are other mothers out there with similar challenges. And even if their experience is unlike ours, we know they will hear us and hold us. 
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We're working on our summer schedule - we'll be meeting in-person and virtually. If you'd like to be a part of a circle please reach out and we'll help you find one that fits ❤️